Part 2 of a 7-part series – How a journey of self discovery led to positive change.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” (Aristotle)
During a team development activity, a colleague I really respect, Barbara Lebar, gave me direct feedback. “I don’t trust that you would have the difficult conversations when they need to be had”. I knew this to be true, but my first reaction was to feel a bit put-out and to make excuses for myself. However, on reflection (and after confirmation from my wife!), I decided to take action. Professionally and personally I consciously put myself into situations where I had to address issues I had been avoiding. I prepared in line with our training and I didn’t procrastinate.
Was it difficult at first? Yes. Did the first conversations all go well? Not necessarily. Did it become easier with time? Absolutely
As a result, when critical professional situations arose where tough conversations were required, I was able to take a lead. I felt confident to say what I wanted and in the way, I wanted to say it.
Call to action: Ask for feedback from 1-2 colleagues that you really respect and who you know will be honest and direct with you. Accept this feedback and reflect on it. Pick 1 priority development area from your feedback and consciously work on it – practice, practice, practice.